16 9 / 2014
Ken is a super smart and super nice man in his early 60s. We were in a meeting room without enough chairs, he got up and gave his chair to a woman who came in after him. Then all the guys got up and waited until each woman had a chair, before they sat down.
Chivalry is not dead ♡
15 9 / 2014
I’m married, have my own house, a baby on the way, and will be 30 in a couple of months - my mom still packs my lunch and I have my sister in law bring it to me at work (we both work in the same building on Mondays).
Love my life.
08 9 / 2014
Another pregnancy announcement - I know 3 babies due close my baby’s dude date, play dates galore!!! So happy ♡!!
05 9 / 2014
Any idea where I should eat my feelings?
I got a material finding due to our system not pushing the loan to the right queue for review. Totally overlooked an eligible plan.
03 9 / 2014
I woke up at 3 am and my little guy was making huge waves inside my belly. You know it’s love when someone does something inconvenient and all I can think is awww, party time!
28 8 / 2014
Talked to my older sister last night, giving her details of my ultrasound and about life in general.
She asked if I was going to let mom do a traditional blessing ceremony. I said no because I don’t know most of those people, those people have nothing to do with my life, I can’t understand what they’re saying, and it’s just an excuse to party and drink all night. I’m not even Buddhist.
She seemed really disappointed in me. She said after mom dies, our culture will go too (in our immediate family anyway).
That is true, but there is a reason I don’t feel connected to Buddhism, Laotian culture, and the Laotian community. Growing up with 5 siblings and being the 2nd oldest, I was always told to stay home. I was always babysitting. My parents didn’t take me to temples. They didn’t take me to lots of huge Laotian community gatherings. There were simply too many kids to watch, and honestly, I think watching us kids would get in the way of their partying.
After that discussion, our conversation took a very candid and uncomfortable turn. She said I was passive aggressive and I agreed that I use to be when I was younger, but I’ve grown up since then and she continues to paint me with the same brush, and sees what she wants to see. She said I sugar coat things and I said I don’t. I gave an example of how we relayed the *same* honest message to my brother (he was going through a video game addiction and neglecting his wife and kids) and we got different responses.
I try to say honest things in an encouraging, loving, and respectful way - doesn’t happen all the time, but I try. Because seriously, if you’ve been acting like a pile of crap, you know it, and I don’t need to rub your nose it in, and point out the obvious. I asked my brother how sad it would make him if his daughter was being treated the same way he treated his family and I know it would break his heart. He didn’t say anything back to me, but we just gave each other a hug and I told him I loved him. He needs his moment to think about his life and make his change. I don’t have the power to change people, only God can. But I can try to love myself and my family, flaws and all.
I don’t remember what my older sister said, but it ended with a huge screaming match and her husband carried her out of the house and they departed earlier than expected from our family get together.
I told her she has an aggressive approach, she renamed it assertive. I brought up the fact that all of our huge family blow outs have been between her and someone else, but the common factor is her. And it’s not because she a complete bitch, but she loves her family deeply and her approach is very aggressive and not encouraging. That is why people respond to her the way they do.
We use to get in huge fights when we were younger. I now know where she’s coming from and that’s why I don’t react that way towards her anymore. I know she is coming from a place of love, maybe a bit of self righteousness, and she is just a diamond in the rough. Very rough around the edges.
She seemed really down after the call and I told her I loved her, this isn’t a personal attack, just one person’s perspective. I hope she has an awesome day at work and isn’t bogged down by what I said. I hope that I was honest, loving, and respectful towards her and that she didn’t feel stripped down and beaten by my words, because that is not my intention. I try to build people up, not break them down.
I love my older sister to pieces and I know her heart is in the right place. But what she thinks is right for her, doesn’t mean it’s right for me.